Guide to difficult conversations with staff

Prepare yourself for challenging conversations with staff. Follow our tips on how to give feedback, develop questioning skills and practice active listening, so you can approach your meetings with confidence.

Last reviewed on 16 July 2024
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Contents
  1. Tailor your response to the issue
  2. Prepare for the meeting 
  3. Be aware of the types of questions you're asking
  4. Use our template to record your meeting notes
  5. Agree working contracts with your team to make future conversations easier
  6. Leadership CPD from The Key

Tailor your response to the issue

There's a variety of topics that may lead to challenging conversations. For example, to:

  • Address poor performance or conduct
  • Deal with personal problems
  • Investigate complaints/deal with grievances
  • Comfort or reassure someone – for example, if they're going to be made redundant
  • Tackle personality clashes
  • Deal with potentially delicate situations, such as turning down requests for annual leave or to work flexibly

For all of the above, you'll want to respond to the issue with an informal chat first, before arranging a meeting. This is so you can check in on how the staff member is feeling, which may in turn bring up underlying issues. You can use a system of welfare checks to understand how your staff are doing, address problems and provide any support they need. 

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