Behaviour incidents: letters to parents/carers

Use our template letters to communicate about behaviour incidents with parents and carers, and find tips on how to build a trusting relationship with them.

Last reviewed on 23 May 2024
School types: AllSchool phases: AllRef: 5680
Contents
  1. Download our template letters
  2. Build a trusting relationship with parents/carers
  3. Find more useful tips for addressing challenging behaviour

Download our template letters

Use these 4 letters to communicate about behaviour incidents with parents/carers.

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These templates are from our model behaviour policy and can be adapted for both primary and secondary schools

Letter 1Asks the parent/carer to discuss the behaviour with their child 
Letter 2Asks the parent/carer to discuss their child's behaviour with the teacher 
Letter 3Invites the parent/carer to discuss their child's behaviour with additional members of staff (such as the headteacher and special educational needs co-ordinator (SENCO))
Letter 4Informs the parent/carer that their child has been given a detention

Build a trusting relationship with parents/carers

This means parents/carers are more likely to respond to conversations and letters positively. 

Use our guidance for effective parental engagement to help develop those relationships. 

This is the best way to form a constructive relationship, and is more likely to be successful